Give Freely To Others


Have Benevolence! GIVE!

Benevolence is: "The disposition to do good; good will; charitableness; love of mankind, accompanied with a desire to promote their happiness."

I know too often, in these days, we as humans are out to promote our own will. Unfortunately sometimes that means we step over others, don't care for what others are feeling, or say things that make others look bad--just so we can get ahead.

Many years ago I started implementing an idea in my life. Give freely to others. For the last ten years I have lived my mantra, You get as you give!


If you focus your attention to helping others, without the expectation of return, it naturally comes back to you.

What does, "Give freely to others!" look like?

There are three ways you can give to others: MONEY, KNOWLEDGE, or HELP.


You can follow the old adage here, "give 10% of what you earn." If you don't believe in doing this then give $5 here, or $10 there. You may buy Girl Scout Cookies, candy bars, cookie dough or donate to a charity like United Way, Cancer Foundation or some other

worthy cause. If you are in a position to help others monetarily then do it.

Economic times are tough, if you are not in a position to give money then give possessions. Some people donate their unused stuff to ARC, Good Will or the Salvation army. You may give an old clunker car to your church or civic organization. That all boils down to helping others less fortunate than you.

The other day I was at the gas station. I was waiting in line and the young man in front of me had two energy drinks. He asked the clerk how much they were. Then he handed her a gas station rewards card and asked her how much points he had to redeem. It was enough for the drinks and to put five buck of gas in his car. She rang it up and scanned his card to use the points. The card was inactive. He had not registered the card and couldn't use the points. He turned away, disappointed, and went out to the his vehicle at the pump to try to register the card so he could get gas. I saw them through the window. He and his girlfriend looked miffed as they scrambled to activate the card.

Now, they probably didn't need the energy drinks, but I could tell they needed the fuel for their vehicle. I made a decision to give freely. I told the cashier to ring up the drinks and put ten bucks on pump two (the one they were parked in front of.) I walked out to their vehicle and tapped on the window. The young man hesitantly rolled it down. I handed him the two energy drinks and told him there was $10 pre-paid on the pump for him. His eyes light up and his girlfriend looked surprised. He gave me a big, "Thank You!" and I went on my way to work.

I didn't have to give them anything. I could have been like the three other customers in the gas station, and went on my way without doing anything. I wanted to give freely to someone in a situation.

It made my day, I am sure it made theirs.


Money is not the only way to help others. You can pass on your knowledge. Whether you know it or not, you can pass on something that will help another person in life. You can help someone learn a skill. You can tutor someone who needs additional learning. You can become a mentor to someone in your office.

I have spent the last fourteen years training sales people how to sell cars. I have trained over a hundred sales people, how to provide good customer service, discover their wants and needs, follow-up, and take care of their customers problems. I wrote several training manuals and guidebooks on the subject. Over the years I provided my books free or at cost to help them become better salespeople.

I decided to pass on my knowledge to better their abilities selling, whether they stay at our dealership or go somewhere else, or do something else. Working with them, I take on the attitude that my success is their success. If they end up doing something else, I hope I was able to give them some skills they can use for the rest of their lives.

I didn't have to go the extra mile. I cold have done the minimum I needed to do in my sales management job. But, I knew that if I passed on all of my knowledge they would be better sales people for it.

About a month ago I got a call from an ex-salesperson. he had worked for us for nearly two years and moved on to the Mortgage business. He called to thank me specifically for the phone skills I "pounded" into him. He said it helped him immensely in the Mortgage business and he appreciated what I taught him.

Impart your knowledge to others.


The last way we show our benevolence is by helping out others. At times we can choose to help others, or not. Some people feel that if they do help, they need to get something in return. The key here is to help others without the expectation of return. The feeling you get for just helping out is greater then any reward you can actually receive.

A single act of helping someone can follow you for the rest of your life.

About a year ago I was on my way to work. A girl on the side of the road and was pushing her old VW beetle. It was on the side road, and there was nobody around to help this girl. I rolled down the window and asked her if she needed help pushing. She paused, reflecting if she should accept or not, being a girl and I was a stranger. I told her to get in the car and lock the door and I would back up to park and I would get out and push her. (Don't help, or accept help, if you don't think it is safe.) She smiled, realizing that would be safe and said, thanks. I pushed her around the corner to the gas station. I waived at her and returned to my car.

It is amazing how a single act can make a difference. You can do the simplest things to help someone. Hold a door open. Carry a box for someone. Help a friend move. Help a co-worker fill out their paperwork. (Whatever it is, you might be able to help out.)

It was a simple act of kindness.

You can give in so many ways. Money, knowledge, or help.